There are days when I’m super feeling empowered, loving my body and my mindset is beyond amazing. However, there are also days when I can stand at the mirror and pick at every flaw imaginable. Let me tell you, I can be bloody brutal. You know how people talking about our ‘inner critics’? Mine’s like being in a burning building on fire and the only way I’m going to be able to save myself is if I repeatedly insult every part of who I am. Surely I’m not alone, right??
1. DITCH THE SOCIAL MEDIA
Social media is probably the last thing I need on days like these. There’s nothing quite like seeing a bunch of super lean girls in minimal clothing to boost up your self-esteem… SERIOUSLY THOUGH, angles and lighting are such a big contributor to these Instagram posts with a million likes. I can promise you the photo posted is NOT the first picture taken and it most likely took approximately 58694 photos prior to the one you’re viewing. Yet on days when we get caught up on the little things about our bodies, we forget this. We forget that Instagram is the highlight wheel of people’s lives. You portray whoever you want to be on social media.
2. VALIDATE WHO YOU ARE AT THE CORE
You are not entirely comprised of physical characteristics. Even on my bad days I am not my chunky thighs with a dimple on the left leg, my large hips or my bloated stomach. I am so much more than that. Even if you dislike the way you look, remember who you are on the inside. Looks can only get you so far in this world. Find 3 things that you don’t mind about yourself. WRITE THEM DOWN! I don’t care if it’s “my eyes are a nice colour” or “I am kind.” Either of those are valid because there is more to you than the way you look. If you do dislike your physical appearance, make a plan and CHANGE. Validate that you are spinning the wheels into motion for change.
3. RECOGNISE YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
You are what you tell yourself you are. YES, it is corny. BUT it has proved to be true time and time again in my life. Limiting beliefs stop us from getting to where we want to be and achieving our goals. These are often automatic, and we rarely set aside time to question them. If I told myself every day that I am fat the chances are I’m far more likely to engage in a behaviour such as binge eating, which would ultimately lead to weight gain. Again, if I told myself I’ll never feel happy with my body I’m setting myself up to fail. Try your best not to sabotage your own chances at happiness.
4. RE-CREATE YOUR SELF IMAGE
You are the only person in control of your life. You have a choice to sit back and listen to your self-limiting beliefs or to do something about them. Think about the kind of person you want to be… Confident? Happy? Attractive? Lean? Intelligent? Tell yourself you are those things until they BECOME your beliefs about yourself. Act as if they are your beliefs. There will come a day when you reach a point that they become your beliefs and thus who you are.